Ronnie Murray
Ronnie Murray is a CTI co-active life coach who for a decade has also run life skills workshops to help others claim back their courage to take steps towards a better quality of life. In a personal or business context, she helps those who take on too much and put themselves last, to learn to say no and instead tune into new strategies, focus and energy. Also in a personal or business context, she helps clients deal with difficult interpersonal relationships - perhaps the “difficult” employee or boss or member of the family. These conflict situations drain our energy and she has skills which she often uses creatively to help clients gain new choices.
Teenagers
Ronnie is also experienced coaching kids and teenagers through work she has done separately through Relate. When adults face divorce – sometimes the kids also benefit from coaching too. It helps them plan what's next and is different to counseling (in some case counseling may be appropriate but she will be able to assess and advise accordingly)
Ronnie enjoys delivering Great Life Coaching workshops from time to time – see news for details of the latest.
Weight Loss Coaching
Ronnie also works with clients who want to lose weight and who experience a struggle with their relationship with food. It is a fact that approximately 90% of people who successfully lose weight put it all back on, and more, within a year. The reason is that while they may have changed their behavioral eating habits, they have not changed the way they think. True lasting changes come about by changes in thinking otherwise the old thinking kicks back in and undoes any new behaviors.
Ronnie explains “Our relationship with food is very complex and closely linked to our emotions, when we eat our brain floods our system with feel-good chemicals called endorphins and depending on other factors such as our genetics and our level of self esteem some people begin to 'use' food to change the way they feel. A short term fix but their underlying need and frustration that drove them remains unmet, and a vicious cycle can be set. Coaching is being used by many people to gain control over their relationship with food and develop the essential life skills to get their needs met, i.e. Assertiveness, coping with stress and conflict etc.”
Here is how Ronnie's approach helped this client:
"I was encouraged to keep a food diary and I had to write down everything I ate together with my feelings before I ate and after, and what was going on around me at the time. I did this every day for a month and during the sessions with Ronnie I began to see a pattern, that I was eating extra food when I wasn't physically hungry, what I had was an emotional craving. She helped me to see my whole life from a different perspective and now I am living my life on my terms and not other peoples and have lost 2 stone" S. Finance officer and mum.
Teams under pressure
Ronnie works with teams too – for example in business, departments who are at the cold face of dealing with stressful situations with clients or under a lot of pressure because of the nature of their job such as tele sales. Clients find Ronnie's workshops a rewarding and enjoyable experience
Divorce and changes
Divorce Lawyers trained in the Collaborative Law model (where both parties and their separate lawyers get round a table) are now encouraged to recommend Life coaches to their clients. The reasons are that coaching helps divorcing people to deal with the difficult situations which arise during the divorce process which their lawyers aren't equipped to deal with – or which would be much more costly for them to deal with. Coaching also helps people who's future has been shattered to start to come to terms with it and move forward more positively to a new chapter in their life. Furthermore, it's recognized that the more amicable and less bitter a divorce the better for any children and for the future of all the parties concerned. Getting a coach on board early on can make a huge difference to ones life after divorce. Ronnie is passionate about helping clients create new inspiring live paths and rise to the challenge of change such as relocation or divorce.
Ronnie's style
Ronnie intuitively combines compassion with a light touch and a sense of humour when clients are at a low ebb to help them move forward. She is technically a very good coach and is firmer with other clients and not scared to get them to face the truth in their situation. Her creativity allows for experiential coaching sessions which bring lightness and spark fresh ideas in her clients.
Ronnie is based in Dorset and prefers to coach face to face within reasonable traveling distance. Her clients enjoy additional email support between sessions.
